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“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” -Zig Ziglar

After much consideration, I decided to make a 26 before 26 list. With help from my friend Jewel and my husband, I put together a list of 26 things I want to get done in the next year. If you read my post about 25 before 25 post, then you saw that I 16930552_10208900352046276_313945688_owas unable to complete it and you might be wondering why I would do another one. Well, one thing is for sure; I am definitely giving myself more than just a couple months this time so there is a better chance of me completing all 26 items. I’m determined to do it this time! I even added pictures to represent them to my vision board, to learn more about that, click here. Here is my 26 before 26 list:

  1. Finish a 5K
  2. Run a 5K (because it’s different than just finishing one)
  3. Finish Harry Potter 1-7 (I’m still on book 5)
  4. Finish the first draft of my Work in Progress
  5. Host a themed dinner party
  6. Throw myself a fabulous birthday party
  7. Get my food handlers card
  8. Go whale watching
  9. Blog at least weekly
  10. Read 26 books
  11. Make friends in L.A.
  12. Go on a girls-only trip
  13. Take a cooking class
  14. Start a YouTube channel with Jewel
  15. Get a job I enjoy
  16. Go white water rafting
  17. Make a music video
  18. Lose 20 pounds
  19. Learn to do winged eyeliner
  20. Get a calling in the church
  21. Visit 3 temples I’ve never been to (Los Angeles, Newport Beach, and San Diego are my goals)
  22. Buy and decorate a house
  23. Reach level 10 life
  24. Do something that scares me
  25. Be positive for a week
  26. Reach 200 members in Bullet Journaling California

 

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I am very optimistic about this list and I know that I can do it. And to help you know that you can do it too, go watch this video on YouTube from the Steve Harvey Show. Please share with us what you are hoping to accomplish before your next birthday. As always, thank you for reading. If you want to enjoy more content from me, follow my blog.

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“Let the refining and improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have little time to criticize others.” -H. Jackson Brown Jr.

School is an important part of everyone’s lives. No matter what, you will go to school, whether it be unschooling, homeschool, public school, or private school, you’re going to some form of school. Once we are done with the required 12 years of school, we are faced withe the choice to continue on or stop and look for a different path. Sometimes we don’t even get to make that decision for ourselves, sometimes our parents had already chosen our path.

For me, I always knew I’d go to college but I didn’t feel like I could get into a university, I’d always felt that I wasn’t smart enough. I settled for the local community college while many of my friends went to UCs or CSUs. Don’t get me wrong, I did have friends who joined me at the community college.

Let me tell you, college is hard. They make it seem so wonderful, so fun, so enlightening. No, just no. My first semester I took 15 units (or credits): Math, English, Communications, and Psychology. I did ok, I passed 3 out of 4 of the classes. I had failed my math class, I was upset but I could take it again and next time I’m pass the class. The next semester I took 17 units: Math (same one, again), English (I was an English major so I took a lot of English classes), Political Science, and Astronomy. I didn’t do as well that semester, I failed my math class AGAIN (you only have 3 tries at passing a class, I needed to pass it next time), Astronomy (it involved a lot of math and science), and Political Science. My third semester I took 16 units: History, Photography, English (2 classes), Physical Education, and Child Development. That was the worst semester of them all. I was sick with a fever almost every week, I got into 2 car accidents (neither were my fault), my family moved out of the state, and my relationship of 6 months ended because I was stupid. It was all bad. I failed everything, I stopped going. How could I go with a fever all the time? I would try again next time.

There wasn’t a next time for a long time. I failed miserably in school and I took a break for a couple of years. I went on my mission and realized what I needed to do when I got home. I was going to actually make school a priority. And that’s just what I did.

When I got home from my mission I took a good hard look at my grades, so much failure, and vowed it would never be that way again. I was on academic probation, the restrictions sucked but I deserved it. I took 2 classes each semester for my first 3 semesters back at school. I retook as many classes as I could. My first semester back, Spring 2015, I took 2 new classes: 2 child development classes. I had declared a new major and wanted to pursue it at full force. I passed both classes with A’s and B’s. I took my first summer semester, summer 2015, with 2 classes: swimming and the child development class I had failed before. I got my first ever 4.0 (all A’s) in my whole life, I was thrilled. Next, Fall 2015, I took a lower math class and another child development class, passing both of them. In Spring 2016 I decided to take 3 classes so I took my failed math class again (for the last try) and 2 child development classes, passing them all. I finally passed my math class. Over the summer I was supposed to take the next math class, a failed English class, and a child development class but a lot was going and the school decided to change my schedule without letting me know so I had to drop the classes. This semester I am taking three classes: History, English, and photography, all of which I had failed but plan on passing this time.

I am now on good academic standing, which is a relief, but now that we moved out of the area I am going to be transferring to a local college. I’m still planning on taking 3 more classes through my current college in the Spring but in the Fall of next year, I will be transferring. I am hoping that I will continue to do well, I know I can. Here is a picture of my failed classes:

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I don’t share this to make a fool out of myself or to prove that young adults aren’t smart. I share this because I’m human, I make mistakes. I also learn from mistakes and make them right. School may not be right for you, at least not right out of high school, and that’s ok. If you do feel that college is your place, do it but don’t slack off like I did. You’re better than that, so was I but I had no one to tell me that. If you’re struggling then get help. If you are overwhelmed, drop out the right way. Talk to your counselor, do what you need to do. Maybe take a break and do something else for a little while. Just be you.

Thanks for reading. I hope you have a great day and do great things.

“If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.” ― Bruce Lee

Many people have heard about the new phenomenon taking the world by storm, or so it seems. I’m not talking about the United States election. What I am talking about involves a notebook and a writing utensil. This phenomenon is BULLET JOURNALING! I’m sure most of you have heard about it, whether from a friend or through the internet. I first learned about this technique on Pinterest.com, which has many amazing ideas to get you started. Pinterest can be pretty overwhelming, though, so it would be a good idea to find like-minded people who are into the same thing you are into. If you are not so lucky as to have a nearby friend, most people don’t, so there are many Facebook groups you can join (if you have an account), or there are many people on Instagram if you’d prefer to be on there. The main Facebook group page is Bullet Journal Junkies where there are people all over the world sharing their own layout and everyone is very generous.

I would like to share my story of how I began my journey into this marvelous realm of bullet journaling. It started in July of this year (2016), I know it wasn’t very long ago but it has changed my life. I have trouble falling asleep some nights and I toss and turn, not even feeling tired. When this happens, I typically go on my phone until I do start feeling sleepy. One night in particular, in July, I was on Pinterest not doing anything useful. I stumbled upon a couple of pins about bullet journaling. It was interesting because I had no idea that my best friend was into bullet journaling and had been for months. So, she introduced me to the Bullet Journal Junkies group and off I went.

Many “newbie” questions are asked on the group so it was quite helpful for me. Yes, questions get asked more than once and yes, you can use the “search” function in the group but with so many new members added to the group almost daily there are so many more takes on the subjects. I will give you little start in the right direction with a few of the “basic beginner” questions that I’ve seen or asked.

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Q: What exactly IS a bullet journal?
A: The best place to start with this question is to visit the creator’s website, bulletjournal.com. He can go more into detail about why he started it and how it has helped him. Anyone you ask will give you different variations of what a bullet journal is but it’s because they have adapted the original format to meet their needs. The website says, “It can be your to-do list, sketchbook, notebook, and diary, but most likely, it will be all of the above. It will teach you to do more with less.” For some it’s a way to keep track of their work, whether it be teaching or accounting or nursing (which is hard because you can’t just carry a notebook around with you on the job) or even a stay at home mom (which is still a very difficult, very rewarding job). Some people use it to stay on track in school, I personally do that. To put simply, it’s like a do-it-yourself planner. As you move forward in your journey, you, too will learn what bullet journaling is to you.

Q: What items do I need to buy before I start?
A: There are no specific items you need. You just need the two basic items: a writing utensil and paper of some kind. Anything else is just “fluff” that makes your bullet journal even more personal but you can get those later, as you get a deeper feel for your system.

Q: What notebook do I buy?
A: Many people in the group use Leuchtturm 1917 Notebook or the Rhoda notebooks but they can be a bit overpriced and many people will tell you that the best thing to do, especially if you are a little iffy on bullet journals, is to either buy a cheap spiral notebook (the ones that are less that $1 at Wal-Mart) or to use loose-leaf binder paper as your very first bullet journal. I don’t particularly like spiral or paperback notebooks so I went to Wal-mart and saw the perfect $10 journal to start my bullet journal process in. Of course, I waiting and missed out on a few days of what could have been productive so don’t wait to have the perfect notebook or pen, just start!

Q: What writing utensil(s) do I use?
A: What writing utensil do you feel most comfortable using? I have seen some members of the group use pens (of all colors), pencils, crayons, markers, you name it you can use it. The beauty of the bullet journal is there is not specific way to do it so you can use whatever make you feel most comfortable.

Q: What if my bullet journal isn’t any good?
A: The only one who needs to see it is you. Your journal doesn’t need to be the next Instagram model. It’s yours and yours alone. Everyone makes mistakes. People in the group do it all the time, their handwriting may not be what they want (I know I hate mine most of the time), they misspell words, their lines aren’t straight, they aren’t artistically inclined. None of that matters because it’s yours and you’re the only one who needs to like it. If you make a mistake, it’s ok because you’re human and if you hate it that much then you can do what some people, myself included, do and print an inspirational quote or picture and glue it over and try again. Just don’t give up!

Q: What do I include in my bullet journal?
A: Everyone includes different things in their bullet journals to make them personal to themselves. Most people have an “If lost, please contact…” page at the very front followed by an index, so that you can see everything you have ever included in your journal. Other possible spreads to include are: year at a glance, monthly spreads, weekly spreads, and daily spreads. You can even include more lists/spreads that aren’t typical for a planner, like books to read, movies to watch, tv show log, what your toddler says, anything and everything can go in your journal. Its a representation of your life so make it feel like it.

Q: When should I start my bullet journal?
A: That answer is simple…NOW. Many people get stuck in the “I need to wait for the right ___” (You can fill in the blank). I was one of those and I lost time waisting away desiring for the perfect journal. Don’t wait, you can start being productive today. Even if it’s on a Wednesday int he middle of the month, you can still start today. If it stresses you out too much to start in the middle of the week, start with other spreads for a few days and then on Sunday or Monday (whichever day you choose as your beginning of the week) start then.

I can go on and on with Q&A’s but I won’t. You should do some personal research too. You won’t be perfect right away (or ever) but you’ll get better and find your niche as you do more and more in your bullet journal. So, run wild and have fun. Here’s a few pictures of my bullet journal, too.

 

What makes YOU want to start up a bullet journal? Where did you hear about it? How long have you been doing it if you already are? What other tips can you give to people who may still be on the fence of doing it or not? Comment below and thank you for reading!

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” -Walt Disney

disneySince last week I have thought about what I would post about pertaining to my planning and adventures to Orlando, Florida. It was an amazing experience but wouldn’t have happened the way it did without prior preparation and planning. And, as I said last week, without the help of Shannon from WDW Prep School. This week, I want to discuss how I picked my date.

If any of you noticed, in my post last week, I said it was our honeymoon/first anniversary trip. I call it that because it was our planned honeymoon that we wanted to take right after the wedding but were unable to, due to short funds and other things coming up. It happened for the best, though. We then pushed it back to January or February 2016, we were going to make it part of my birthday. This also fell through for one reason or another. Finally, in early November 2015, we settled on May, for our anniversary. And we booked it early enough to be able to make early character meal plans. It is recommended to do so 180 days before the first day of your trip and we were able to do that.

Shannon goes into more detail on how to pick the perfect date. If you’re not going for a special occasion, like we did, then you have a few different things to consider; what is the weather typically like at the time you’re thinking of going? What are the crowds like? Is it during their peak season or their off-season? Shannon goes over all of this and more.

When we went in May 22-29, 2016, the weather was almost perfect; it was warm but not hot during the day and cold but not freezing at night. I would suggest a light sweater for the cooler evenings. It didn’t rain at all while we were there but we had ponchos just in case. The crowds were relatively low, even with schools going on field trips there during our week. Many school in the neighboring states take trips there. We went through lines fairly quickly. The time of year we went was not quite their peak season, schools hadn’t gotten out yet and it was mostly during the week.

I know that this isn’t a how-to or an advice column but more of a referral post but Shannon gives the best advice and she knows what she’s doing. I just want to give you a first-timers perspective. Thank you for reading my Disney posts! I’ll keep posting as often as I can. There’s more to be discussed! Comment below with any tips on how to pick the perfect date for your Disney trip

“Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul.” -Luther Burbank

Last time I posted, we talked about why and how I chose my flowers. Today I want to share with you how you, too, can chose your flowers. First, there are a few things you need to consider when choosing the “perfect” flowers for the big day.

  1. What are your wedding colors?
  2. What is your wedding theme?
  3. Do you want real flowers?
  4. Do you want flowers at all?
  5. Is anyone in your bridal party allergic to any certain flowers

I can think of more questions but these are the most important. First, the wedding colors and theme. You most likely don’t want your flowers to clash, it could throw the whole thing off. Instead pick either the same colors, similar shades, or complimentary colors. For example, our wedding colors were hot pink and royal blue with hints of light blue. Are flowers? The Maid of Honor’s bouquet was hot pink, the opposite color of her dress, while the bridesmaids’ bouquets were royal blue, also opposite color of their dresses. My bouquet was white, with one blue symbolizing something blue. On the tables for the reception, we had white flowers. The arch during the ceremony had white, hot pink, and royal blue flowers. The theme didn’t clash with our flowers at all, it was Disney themed but very subtle. However, it is possible to clash with the theme. Your floral designer, if you have one, will be able to help you there. If you are doing it on your own, like we did, then look at ideas online and even do a mock up for yourself. There’s ways to tie almost any flower in with any theme, you just have to be subtle sometimes…and very creative.

Real flowers versus fake flowers is a reoccurring argument that everyone will have an opinion on. I’ve had comments such as “If you don’t have real flowers, is it a real wedding” “If you have fake flowers, your whole wedding might as well be fake” and many more, horribly negative comments. Does any soon-to-be bride want to hear comments such as thins? No! You just need to figure out if you want real or fake, not what others want. If there are allergies, you may want to consider fake if you’re set on a certain flower. If you want the sweet smell of fresh flowers, use real ones or get a scented spray. If you want to keep your flowers and want them to look the same five years from now, fake would be the way to go. There’s also financial reasons that may dictate what you pick. If you have a tighter budget on floral, you may want to go with fake. Real flowers can be very pretty but can also coast way too much, especially when you tack the word “wedding” onto it.

There are other alternatives to flowers. You can do a brooch bouquet, they are very creative. Some do paper flowers out of their favorite books or songs, such as these Harry Potter page flowers. You can even use sea shells, I’ve seen it done and it’s stunning! Some don’t carry anything down the isle at all, even. You are the one who needs to decide what you want. You can be very unique in the ways you do non-floral bouquets.

Here are a few links I thought you might enjoy, as well as some of my flowers (added in May):

Questions To Ask Your Wedding Floral Designer

10 Questions to Ask Before Booking Your Florist

A-Z Flower Names (with pictures)

Unique bridal bouquets without flowers

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Thank you for reading. I hope this helped you get closer to picking your flowers, if any at all. Plese, share any tips you have for picking bridal flowers. Share your pictures below.

“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.” -Steve Maraboli

I think this week has been a roller coaster….and it’s not even the end of the week! I am stressing a little, which is totally lame, my family has been unsupportive and I lost a dear friend. But the positives:  I read a beautiful love story on a blog that I am following called “That Good Part” I was informed of good news from my mission, and I got to visit with some people. Well, I will be explaining all of these things here tonight.

So, my family has been so…back and forth. One minute they think I’m great and the next minute I’m worthless. This is getting ridiculous, and if they read this then maybe they will know how I feel. I’m not a piece of trash to be kicked around. Here is a prime example:
Tuesday night, one of my weekly cooking nights, I was to make hamburger helper. My friend came over just as I was starting dinner to bring me something I had forgotten at her house and we visited while I was cooking. So My whole family silently walks out of the house and to the truck and leaves. They didn’t tell me they were leaving, I had no idea where they were going. I finished cooking and they hadn’t returned. My wonderful friend sat there and ate dinner with me so I wasn’t eating alone. Ten minutes later they text me saying my company had to leave because they were tired (Poorest excuse in the book) so she left (which we were going to watch Pretty Little Liars together but that went down the toilet). My family came back about five minutes after she left and wouldn’t talk to me. About ten minutes after they had been home I asked if they were going to eat, one said “We had Taco Bell.” THEY KNEW I WAS MAKING DINNER. THEY SAW ME COOKING AND THEY LEFT TO GO EAT SOMEWHERE ELSE. You wanna know why they left? Because apparently they don’t like my friend. She did nothing to them. I am so done. And it’s just been increasingly worse since them. I’m nothing more than trash to them and I did absolutely nothing to deserve being treated this way. So at the present time, no one will even look at me so apparently I don’t exist. I hate being treated this way and they don’t understand that it’s damaging. But whatever. I guess I’m just going to end up screwing up my life, according to them. I guess that I high school diploma, college credits, volunteer work, the fact that I did have a job, and now I’m going on a mission is nothing. I have no idea what they want from me. I saw I want to work with kids, they say I need to go to a technical school and get a quick degree in something that makes more money because I’m high maintenance (their words not mine). I say I got 2 jobs right before Summer of 2012 they say it’s useless because one of them I wasn’t getting paid for and the other wasn’t very good either because it wasn’t anything useful (It was a nanny job). I saw I’m going on a mission they say I could use that money for something more important and I need to get a job and go to school. I introduce them to a new boyfriend, they threaten to kick me out because I like a boy (I am a 21 year old female, do they want me to be gay?). The cycle never ends. I try to show that I’m doing something with my life and they just shoot it down. There is no winning here, seriously! I give up. They don’t even want to be there to see me off at the airport when I leave for my mission. Apparently they don’t care if I’m in their lives or not, which I guess I don’t need them either.

Next subject: My friend Becca (from my post about letting go) finally said she didn’t want to be my friend. We had a long drawn out conversation and it end with her saying I needed to accept myself before anyone else could. This…this made me upset because I know EXACTLY who I am and if she can’t see that or if I don’t measure up to the person she wanted me to be, well that’s too bad. I am the person I am today because I know my faults and I accept them. I know that I am bossy sometimes and I correct people all the time. If you can’t handle me then I don’t need you in my life and that’s that. I don’t like when people try to force their ideas of a perfect person down my throat. I am not trying to be a cookie cutter friend. I am me, I make mistakes and I won’t change for each individual friend. I hope my friends wouldn’t change for anyone either. I like them the way they are. But she started changing for someone else a long time ago and hasn’t been the same. She has just brought me down since then I don’t need a negative Nancy on my case all day everyday. I became her friend because we were similar but different. No we have practically nothing in common. Anyway, enough about negatives…

Subject number three! So I got a call Tuesday morning from the mission office from my mission and they told me that I don’t have to buy a bike. This is excellent news because now I will save $600. YAY for saving money. I will now have a car mission. This is kind of a bummer, you can only drive a certain number of miles per month so you have to make sure to plan you meetings well. This is both good and bad I guess. Nothing can ever be all positives or all negative though…

On another topic, for those of my readers that live in Fresno, California the downtown historic water tower needs more volunteers. They have 3 hour shifts (10:00am-1:00pm or 1:00pm-4:00pm) 6 days a week (closed on Sundays). Here’s a picture of the water tower if you didn’t know what it looks like.

2444 Fresno St. Fresno, CA, 93730
2444 Fresno St.
Fresno, CA, 93730

I apologize for my rotten mood in this post but people haven’t been supportive lately and it’s just…well you know. Anyway. I hope all of you have a happy day today! Love you all, even if I don’t know you. If you want to read something better, here is the link to the best love story I’ve ever read. It’s a continuous post though and she has 12 up right now. http://thatgoodpart.wordpress.com/2012/12/12/the-story-homey-and-me-a-love-story-part-one-of-a-lot-intro-and-galloping-adolescence/