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“Let the refining and improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have little time to criticize others.” -H. Jackson Brown Jr.

School is an important part of everyone’s lives. No matter what, you will go to school, whether it be unschooling, homeschool, public school, or private school, you’re going to some form of school. Once we are done with the required 12 years of school, we are faced withe the choice to continue on or stop and look for a different path. Sometimes we don’t even get to make that decision for ourselves, sometimes our parents had already chosen our path.

For me, I always knew I’d go to college but I didn’t feel like I could get into a university, I’d always felt that I wasn’t smart enough. I settled for the local community college while many of my friends went to UCs or CSUs. Don’t get me wrong, I did have friends who joined me at the community college.

Let me tell you, college is hard. They make it seem so wonderful, so fun, so enlightening. No, just no. My first semester I took 15 units (or credits): Math, English, Communications, and Psychology. I did ok, I passed 3 out of 4 of the classes. I had failed my math class, I was upset but I could take it again and next time I’m pass the class. The next semester I took 17 units: Math (same one, again), English (I was an English major so I took a lot of English classes), Political Science, and Astronomy. I didn’t do as well that semester, I failed my math class AGAIN (you only have 3 tries at passing a class, I needed to pass it next time), Astronomy (it involved a lot of math and science), and Political Science. My third semester I took 16 units: History, Photography, English (2 classes), Physical Education, and Child Development. That was the worst semester of them all. I was sick with a fever almost every week, I got into 2 car accidents (neither were my fault), my family moved out of the state, and my relationship of 6 months ended because I was stupid. It was all bad. I failed everything, I stopped going. How could I go with a fever all the time? I would try again next time.

There wasn’t a next time for a long time. I failed miserably in school and I took a break for a couple of years. I went on my mission and realized what I needed to do when I got home. I was going to actually make school a priority. And that’s just what I did.

When I got home from my mission I took a good hard look at my grades, so much failure, and vowed it would never be that way again. I was on academic probation, the restrictions sucked but I deserved it. I took 2 classes each semester for my first 3 semesters back at school. I retook as many classes as I could. My first semester back, Spring 2015, I took 2 new classes: 2 child development classes. I had declared a new major and wanted to pursue it at full force. I passed both classes with A’s and B’s. I took my first summer semester, summer 2015, with 2 classes: swimming and the child development class I had failed before. I got my first ever 4.0 (all A’s) in my whole life, I was thrilled. Next, Fall 2015, I took a lower math class and another child development class, passing both of them. In Spring 2016 I decided to take 3 classes so I took my failed math class again (for the last try) and 2 child development classes, passing them all. I finally passed my math class. Over the summer I was supposed to take the next math class, a failed English class, and a child development class but a lot was going and the school decided to change my schedule without letting me know so I had to drop the classes. This semester I am taking three classes: History, English, and photography, all of which I had failed but plan on passing this time.

I am now on good academic standing, which is a relief, but now that we moved out of the area I am going to be transferring to a local college. I’m still planning on taking 3 more classes through my current college in the Spring but in the Fall of next year, I will be transferring. I am hoping that I will continue to do well, I know I can. Here is a picture of my failed classes:

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I don’t share this to make a fool out of myself or to prove that young adults aren’t smart. I share this because I’m human, I make mistakes. I also learn from mistakes and make them right. School may not be right for you, at least not right out of high school, and that’s ok. If you do feel that college is your place, do it but don’t slack off like I did. You’re better than that, so was I but I had no one to tell me that. If you’re struggling then get help. If you are overwhelmed, drop out the right way. Talk to your counselor, do what you need to do. Maybe take a break and do something else for a little while. Just be you.

Thanks for reading. I hope you have a great day and do great things.

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“If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.” ― Bruce Lee

Many people have heard about the new phenomenon taking the world by storm, or so it seems. I’m not talking about the United States election. What I am talking about involves a notebook and a writing utensil. This phenomenon is BULLET JOURNALING! I’m sure most of you have heard about it, whether from a friend or through the internet. I first learned about this technique on Pinterest.com, which has many amazing ideas to get you started. Pinterest can be pretty overwhelming, though, so it would be a good idea to find like-minded people who are into the same thing you are into. If you are not so lucky as to have a nearby friend, most people don’t, so there are many Facebook groups you can join (if you have an account), or there are many people on Instagram if you’d prefer to be on there. The main Facebook group page is Bullet Journal Junkies where there are people all over the world sharing their own layout and everyone is very generous.

I would like to share my story of how I began my journey into this marvelous realm of bullet journaling. It started in July of this year (2016), I know it wasn’t very long ago but it has changed my life. I have trouble falling asleep some nights and I toss and turn, not even feeling tired. When this happens, I typically go on my phone until I do start feeling sleepy. One night in particular, in July, I was on Pinterest not doing anything useful. I stumbled upon a couple of pins about bullet journaling. It was interesting because I had no idea that my best friend was into bullet journaling and had been for months. So, she introduced me to the Bullet Journal Junkies group and off I went.

Many “newbie” questions are asked on the group so it was quite helpful for me. Yes, questions get asked more than once and yes, you can use the “search” function in the group but with so many new members added to the group almost daily there are so many more takes on the subjects. I will give you little start in the right direction with a few of the “basic beginner” questions that I’ve seen or asked.

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Q: What exactly IS a bullet journal?
A: The best place to start with this question is to visit the creator’s website, bulletjournal.com. He can go more into detail about why he started it and how it has helped him. Anyone you ask will give you different variations of what a bullet journal is but it’s because they have adapted the original format to meet their needs. The website says, “It can be your to-do list, sketchbook, notebook, and diary, but most likely, it will be all of the above. It will teach you to do more with less.” For some it’s a way to keep track of their work, whether it be teaching or accounting or nursing (which is hard because you can’t just carry a notebook around with you on the job) or even a stay at home mom (which is still a very difficult, very rewarding job). Some people use it to stay on track in school, I personally do that. To put simply, it’s like a do-it-yourself planner. As you move forward in your journey, you, too will learn what bullet journaling is to you.

Q: What items do I need to buy before I start?
A: There are no specific items you need. You just need the two basic items: a writing utensil and paper of some kind. Anything else is just “fluff” that makes your bullet journal even more personal but you can get those later, as you get a deeper feel for your system.

Q: What notebook do I buy?
A: Many people in the group use Leuchtturm 1917 Notebook or the Rhoda notebooks but they can be a bit overpriced and many people will tell you that the best thing to do, especially if you are a little iffy on bullet journals, is to either buy a cheap spiral notebook (the ones that are less that $1 at Wal-Mart) or to use loose-leaf binder paper as your very first bullet journal. I don’t particularly like spiral or paperback notebooks so I went to Wal-mart and saw the perfect $10 journal to start my bullet journal process in. Of course, I waiting and missed out on a few days of what could have been productive so don’t wait to have the perfect notebook or pen, just start!

Q: What writing utensil(s) do I use?
A: What writing utensil do you feel most comfortable using? I have seen some members of the group use pens (of all colors), pencils, crayons, markers, you name it you can use it. The beauty of the bullet journal is there is not specific way to do it so you can use whatever make you feel most comfortable.

Q: What if my bullet journal isn’t any good?
A: The only one who needs to see it is you. Your journal doesn’t need to be the next Instagram model. It’s yours and yours alone. Everyone makes mistakes. People in the group do it all the time, their handwriting may not be what they want (I know I hate mine most of the time), they misspell words, their lines aren’t straight, they aren’t artistically inclined. None of that matters because it’s yours and you’re the only one who needs to like it. If you make a mistake, it’s ok because you’re human and if you hate it that much then you can do what some people, myself included, do and print an inspirational quote or picture and glue it over and try again. Just don’t give up!

Q: What do I include in my bullet journal?
A: Everyone includes different things in their bullet journals to make them personal to themselves. Most people have an “If lost, please contact…” page at the very front followed by an index, so that you can see everything you have ever included in your journal. Other possible spreads to include are: year at a glance, monthly spreads, weekly spreads, and daily spreads. You can even include more lists/spreads that aren’t typical for a planner, like books to read, movies to watch, tv show log, what your toddler says, anything and everything can go in your journal. Its a representation of your life so make it feel like it.

Q: When should I start my bullet journal?
A: That answer is simple…NOW. Many people get stuck in the “I need to wait for the right ___” (You can fill in the blank). I was one of those and I lost time waisting away desiring for the perfect journal. Don’t wait, you can start being productive today. Even if it’s on a Wednesday int he middle of the month, you can still start today. If it stresses you out too much to start in the middle of the week, start with other spreads for a few days and then on Sunday or Monday (whichever day you choose as your beginning of the week) start then.

I can go on and on with Q&A’s but I won’t. You should do some personal research too. You won’t be perfect right away (or ever) but you’ll get better and find your niche as you do more and more in your bullet journal. So, run wild and have fun. Here’s a few pictures of my bullet journal, too.

 

What makes YOU want to start up a bullet journal? Where did you hear about it? How long have you been doing it if you already are? What other tips can you give to people who may still be on the fence of doing it or not? Comment below and thank you for reading!

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” -Walt Disney

disneySince last week I have thought about what I would post about pertaining to my planning and adventures to Orlando, Florida. It was an amazing experience but wouldn’t have happened the way it did without prior preparation and planning. And, as I said last week, without the help of Shannon from WDW Prep School. This week, I want to discuss how I picked my date.

If any of you noticed, in my post last week, I said it was our honeymoon/first anniversary trip. I call it that because it was our planned honeymoon that we wanted to take right after the wedding but were unable to, due to short funds and other things coming up. It happened for the best, though. We then pushed it back to January or February 2016, we were going to make it part of my birthday. This also fell through for one reason or another. Finally, in early November 2015, we settled on May, for our anniversary. And we booked it early enough to be able to make early character meal plans. It is recommended to do so 180 days before the first day of your trip and we were able to do that.

Shannon goes into more detail on how to pick the perfect date. If you’re not going for a special occasion, like we did, then you have a few different things to consider; what is the weather typically like at the time you’re thinking of going? What are the crowds like? Is it during their peak season or their off-season? Shannon goes over all of this and more.

When we went in May 22-29, 2016, the weather was almost perfect; it was warm but not hot during the day and cold but not freezing at night. I would suggest a light sweater for the cooler evenings. It didn’t rain at all while we were there but we had ponchos just in case. The crowds were relatively low, even with schools going on field trips there during our week. Many school in the neighboring states take trips there. We went through lines fairly quickly. The time of year we went was not quite their peak season, schools hadn’t gotten out yet and it was mostly during the week.

I know that this isn’t a how-to or an advice column but more of a referral post but Shannon gives the best advice and she knows what she’s doing. I just want to give you a first-timers perspective. Thank you for reading my Disney posts! I’ll keep posting as often as I can. There’s more to be discussed! Comment below with any tips on how to pick the perfect date for your Disney trip

“If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you to right into your purpose.” -Bishop T.D. Jakes

Today I am having a hard time with my challenge that I gave myself. I have been doing pretty good with doing dishes willingly. I may not have done them every day but I did them and I was happy about it. Today is definitely like it has been. I just absolutely don’t feel like doing the dishes at all. Ya know what, that’s ok. Sometimes we get in those moods. It’s ok to have those moods/feelings. What’s not ok is dwelling on them. I know that if I suck it up and do them, I’ll feel better about myself and I know that I won’t have to worry about it. But how do I find the motivation?

I have been asking that question a lot recently. “How do I find the motivation to…” Do you motivation.jpgfind yourself asking this question? Almost every day I ask myself how I can get motivation for something. Many times, as of late, it has been “how can I find the motivation to exercise?” or “how can I find the motivation to be more healthy?” Nothing has worked for me. I know it needs to happen but it doesn’t. At times on my mission, as hard to admit it as it is, I asked “how do I find the motivation to get out of bed at 6:30 every morning?” This is ironic now because my alarm goes off at 5:00am Monday-Friday because I have school at 7:00am and then go to work right after (8:30am). Plus, I used to get up between 6:00 and 6:30 every morning in high school during the school year for seminary.

How do you find the motivation to do things that you don’t particularly enjoy? I struggle with working out because I don’t enjoy it. I struggle with being more healthy because it’s expensive and I don’t like exercise. I struggled getting out of bed at one point in my mission because I was having a rough time and I felt lost and confused. How do I get over these hurdles? Well, I very obviously got over that hurdle on my mission. It was different, then, though. I had the Lord in everything I was doing. Being a missionary you are closer to God than you had been ever before. Not to say that I am not close to my Father in Heaven but it’s just not the same. We were given these handbooks called Adjusting to Missionary Life at just the right time. I studied that daily and became such a better missionary. I found my motivation in that book. Perhaps I should crack it out again and see how I can apply it to regular, everyday life. I just need to start a routine with working out and stick to it. I need to just jump in and do it. My main issue here, really, is procrastination.

Anyway, it’s late and I have to get up in six and a half hours so I’d better sign off of here. I know that this post, like many of my posts, was mostly for me but I hope you got something out of it. Feel free to share your “how do I find the motivation to…” I’d love to hear how you can find it, too.