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“You want, as an artist, to be pushing yourself to do what you haven’t done before.” -T. C. Boyle

17407585_1653152884993103_355375473_o          On Thursday evening I was given the opportunity to meet one of my favorite authors. T.C. Boyle came to Reedley College and I jumped at the chance to see him. I didn’t always name him as one of my favorite authors, I was actually just introduced to his work last summer when I had to purchase Tortilla Curtain for a class I was enrolled in but had to drop. I then had to buy the T.C. Boyle Stories II for my current fictional writing class.

T.C. Boyle’s visit was the last of a whole set of speakers at Reedley College but he was the only one I was able to go see. I17430962_1653152811659777_1552946766_o had known about his spot shortly after the
semester began so it’s been on the calendar for about two months. Going to see him in person and listen to him read “Chicxulub” made me have an even deeper appreciation for him and his writing.

Many may not have ever heard of T.C. Boyle but I encourage you to read any of his amazing stories or novels. If you ever have the chance to go and listen to him live, I would hope you would take that opportunity just as I did. I will post a few notes I took so you can get a feeling for what he said.17474292_1653152838326441_1942343247_o

  • Went to public school in New York
  • Middle Class family
  • He wrote Tortilla Curtain to sort out all of his feelings
  • Everything he writes is a kind of dream
  • He says he’s not retired, he’s “pre-dead”
  • Art takes you out of yourself
  • Advice on how to become a writer: come from a wealthy family (LOL)
  • If it doesn’t work after 2 pages, throw it away
  • Water Music was is first novel and it is his favorite
  • If you want to write, you need to read

Again, it was such an honor to meet T.C. Boyle and I encourage everyone to go out and get familiar with his work because you won’t be sorry.

17474100_1653152724993119_1124326754_o          If you have read his work or have had the opportunity to meet with him, please tell me what your favorite story or novel is that his has written. One that really sticks with me is his short story “The Underground Gardens” because it takes a historical place in Fresno and turns it into a story that is so raw, and so beautiful. I almost wish that it was longer so that I could read more.

As always, I am very grateful for you coming to my blog. Feel free to comment below with any questions about seeing T.C. Boyle.

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“Some family trees have beautiful leaves, and some have just a bunch of nuts. Remember, it is the nuts that make the tree worth shaking.” –Unknown

Learning about where we come from is something that many people are interested Screen Shot 2017-03-14 at 1.19.10 PMin today. My grandma was greatly involved in family history and found links to trace our lineage pretty far back. I’ve always wanted to do the same but I get lost as to where to go from here. There is one person, in particular, who is even more lost than I am. That person is my wonderful father-in-law.

He has continuously expressed interest in family history and in finding his father, who ha had never met. My husband and I decided to start the process by purchasing Ancestry DNA kit. We were all very anxious to see what the results would be and if there would be any links to his father.

Several weeks after receiving the DNA sample, Ancestry emailed me to inform me that there had been a great number of samples sent in after the holidays and that they expected it to take more than the estimated 6-8 weeks.

Finally, I had an email waiting in my inbox stating that the results are ready for viewing. I tried very hard not to look at them because I wanted it to be a surprise for everyone. I shielded the results from my view, printed out the summary, then folded it and sealed it in an envelop.

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We were able to give my father-in-law the good news this past weekend and boy was it worth it. He was so ecstatic! He loved the results of where the DNA shows his lineage and he especially loved that there were so many DNA matches. The best part? His mom had taken a DNA test and we didn’t even know but she and his half-sister came up on his results. Screen Shot 2017-03-14 at 1.19.59 PM

Some of you may be wondering, how do I do this? How much does it cost? Is it safe? To answer you, you order it online (there are many places), there is a price but each place is different, and yes, this particular place is safe.

Here is a list of the top four sites for DNA kits:

  1. Ancestry ($99, unless on sale)
  2. 23 and Me ($99-$199, depending on what package)
  3. My Heritage ($99, unless on sale)
  4. Family Tree DNA ($79-$199, depending on what package)

According to various sites and articles, every source for DNA testing has its advantages and disadvantages. We went with Ancestry because we know the site and we trust it. Others may hate the site. It all depends on personal preference and budget. If you don’t have a price point, you could the most expensive option but if you are on a tight budget, a cheaper route may be best.

I wish I had more background information on DNA kits but I don’t. I haven’t found anyone who has done one using anything other than Ancestry. When I do get more information, I’ll try to post again with more information.

As always, thank you for coming to my blog. I hope you enjoyed it! Don’t forget to follow so you can receive updates on my blog.

“How often are we to die before we go quite off this stage? In every friend we lose a part of ourselves, and the best part.” -Alexander Pope

As we get older, our lives change. The things were valued when we were 5 are not the same things we valued at 16 and the things we valued at 16 are, most likely, different from the things we value most in our adulthood. We may move away from home, experience the death of a loved one, or even the birth of our own children. Some changes are hard to cope with while others are accepted with open arms. One of the more difficult ones that I have recently dealt with is loosing a dear friend.

As we age, we find that the friends we had in high school are probably going to go on different paths in life from you. Every once in a while we find that one friend, sometimes two, who stick with us through all of those changes. They’re what we all call our best friend. You don’t see anyway that would make your friendship end because you’re just too close. But then, life throws you a curve ball and you’re leaving her house at midnight because she hurt you in an unforgivable way. You go days, weeks, months without saying a word to her. You see that she’s happy, even with you gone, while you’re trying hard to stop the flow of tears. It’s not a happy time in your life. It’s harder than when the guy you were in love with broke up with you. She knows all of your secrets, she’s the one you talked to when anything (big or little) happened in your life and all you want it to have that again. But you can’t. You can’t have that again because she broke your heart in a way you never thought possible.

17238931_1647987095509682_603771781_nIf you’ve never experienced such a pain as I just described, then you are very lucky. I actually experienced this more than once. The first time started in high school. After several years of barely talking, we are actually on good terms. We are not where we used to be, we may never get there, but we are still friends and we do care about each other. The second time happened on March 4, 2017. I won’t go into details but when I was verbally attacked by two people I thought were supposed to be my friends. I wasn’t going to sit around and let it happen so I left. I left the house in the middle of the night and walked down the street. I left all of my stuff that I had with me, I had no jacket, I didn’t even have any plans. I just made a couple of phone calls until I found someone able to pick me up and take me out of there. I felt numb. Not just from being cold but from the torture I was just put through. The one person I trusted with my life, let me down.

I haven’t talked to her, I can’t. There’s nothing left to say. I still very much care about her but I just can’t get over what I was put through. At least not right now. I spent three days crying off and on because of it. My heart is aching. But the words that were said cannot be taken back. Nor will they even try. Them wanting me to accept their harsh words is more important that friendship, which hurt even more when I was told that.

I’m not posting this to call anyone out or to get sympathy from my readers. I am posting this because I want my readers to know that you are not alone in the pain you feel after losing your best friend. I’m not the first person to every experience this and I most certainly will not be the last.

I decided to do a bit of research on dealing with a “Best Friend Breakup” and I was pleasantly surprised that there was a lot out there on Google pertaining to the topic. Here are a few things that I took away from my Google search:

  1. “Friend breakups tend to go unacknowledged, which can contribute to why people suffer so much from them. When the public response is ‘Eh, it happens,’ you feel like you shouldn’t be mourning as much as you are.” (How to Deal—and Heal—When a Friend Breaks Up With You)
  2. The closer you were to the friend you broke up with, the more you’re going to hurt. So give yourself adequate grieving time. (How to Deal—and Heal—When a Friend Breaks Up With You)
  3. Don’t get down on yourself if you find that you need more time. (How to Deal—and Heal—When a Friend Breaks Up With You)
  4. Try not to disavow all the good times you and your former friend had. (How to Deal—and Heal—When a Friend Breaks Up With You)
  5. The 13 steps on wikiHow to Get Over the Loss of a Best Friend
  6.  Buzzfeed’s article “17 Things Anyone Who’s Ever Had A Friend Breakup Knows
  7. Let yourself cry it out (Surviving a Friendship Break Up)
  8. Write a letter to your friend that you never intend to send (Surviving a Friendship Break Up)
  9. It may seem obvious, but don’t force your other friends to take sides. Get comfortable with the fact that they may still spend a great deal of time with your ex-gal pal and that this is no reflection on you. (Surviving a Friendship Break Up)
  10. Just like dating, sometimes you have to be the one to take the first step (Surviving a Friendship Break Up)
  11. Put yourself first and make sure you are getting plenty of sleep, eating well and sticking to your usual routine. (Friend breakups are the worst – here’s how to handle them)
  12. You’ll need to surround yourself with other friends and family if you have lost a close friend, and it’s important to keep up with your social commitments, so that you don’t sit at home feeling increasingly depressed and isolated. (Friend breakups are the worst – here’s how to handle them)
  13. It’s normal to sit around going over things in your head and wondering what went wrong – this is how we grieve the loss of a person in our lives and it’s an important part of the healing process. (Friend breakups are the worst – here’s how to handle them)
  14. Be optimistic and remember that just because you have lost a friendship, doesn’t mean there won’t be more opportunities for new friends in your life! (Friend breakups are the worst – here’s how to handle them)
  15. If you are struggling to come to terms with the friend-shaped hole in your life, talking to other friends and family members can help you get some perspective. If you’re feeling really low, seek support from a counsellor or therapist (Friend breakups are the worst – here’s how to handle them)
  16. Don’t spill secrets that the two of you once had. (8 Ways To Survive A Best Friend Breakup)
  17. Don’t look at their social media. Like most break ups, when you look at their social media you’ll see that they went out with a different group of girls and jealousy will strike. (8 Ways To Survive A Best Friend Breakup)

I promise it will get better. It takes time but healing will come. I’m not there yet but I know I will be. Just like when a relationship ends, this friends breakup won’t end the world. There are people who want to be there for you, even if it doesn’t seem like it. I’m here for you.

If you have your own tips for healing after a best friends breakup, please comment below. I’d love to read them! As always, thank you for coming to my blog! Hit the follow button to stay up to date on all things in the life.

“Maintenance is terribly important.” -Manolo Blahnik

27695989-website-maintenance-warning-sign-vector-stock-vectorHello all, I know that i posted just a few hours ago but I wanted to let everyone know that I will be working on making my blog better and easier to navigate. Not much will be changing. The look will stay the same and I will try to keep my posts on schedule but if you see a few differences or if I lack content, that is why. I want to make my reader’s experience here better and maintenance is how we achieve that. Stay tuned!

As always, that you for reading!

 

“A drop a day keeps the doctor away.” -Unknown

I want to share a product with you today. I am doing this because there are a lot of people who don’t know about so many different products in the world and this is one that I will share to enlighten you.

Have you ever use essential oils? There are many companies out there that always say they have the best products. Well, I am not here to tell you which is better but, instead, to introduce you to a company that you may not know of. Essential 7, or E7, is one of those companies. Please visit their website, they are starting a new subscription box starting next month. Hurry up and check it out now! Here is a little more about them from their website:

“Essential7 offers you a wide range of 100% Pure therapeutic quality Essential oils, Absolute oils, precious oils, cosmetic ingredients, soap making supplies, cosmetic colorants, fragrance oils for soaps, lotions, perfumes, cosmetic products, and candles, floral water hydrosols, body massage oils, carrier oils, and many other natural oils, butters and waxes.
At Essential7.com, LLC, our mission is and has always been: To supply the finest, purest natural products at honest, reasonable and competitive prices. Our dedication to customer service means that we strive to make every interaction with our customers a pleasant experience.”

Also, here is a peek at their website!

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Essential7 Objectives

  1. To supply our clients with the finest ethically produced organic, natural products
  2. To cater to the needs of our diverse clientele
  3. To offer honest, competitive prices
  4. To continually research and source new products to meet our customers’ needs
  5. To offer the highest levels of Customer Service backed by our 100% Satisfaction Guarantee Policy

Contact Us

Telephone: 720-379-8183
Email:  mail@essential7.comI will be getting a box myself soon and I will let you know how it goes. Check back to see my review!

“People don’t notice whether it’s winter or summer when they’re happy.” -Anton Chekhov

Apparently my schedule is a little off this week. Yesterday I was preoccupied with so much! I appologise for not posting, though. Today I will post my random post of the week. For those of you who are new, I have begun a post schedule (which is failing this week) and Monday I post about work, Wednesday I post about something random, and Friday I post about wedding planning. Obviously you can tell by my previous posts that it is very new.

This week I want to talk about Something exciting….Summer movies. Yes, I realize it is only March but I saw it on my newsfeed on Facebook and want to share it with everyone. I will post the link at the bottom, as usual.

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The Summer movies are all just $1 each and they are PG rated, perfect for any age. They have posted the schedule for this year I’m pretty sure I haven’t actually seen any of the movies they will be showing so I want to go to a lot of them. Perhaps I can take the boys to watch them?

Here is the Schedule:

Keep checking back for the list of 2015 participating theatres

  • Week 1
    Nut Job
    Annie
  • Week 2
    Earth to Echo
    The Boxtrolls
  • Week 3
    Paddington
    Turbo
  • Week 4
    Rio 2
    How To Train Your Dragon 2
  • Week 5
    Mr. Peabody & Sherman
    The Book of Life
  • Week 6
    Night at the Museum: Secret of the Tomb
    Penguins of Madagascar
  • Week 7
    The Lego Movie
    Dolphin Tale 2
  • Week 8
    Muppets Most Wanted
    Alexander and the Very Bad Day
  • Week 9
    Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles
    The SpongeBob Movie

How cool is that? I am super excited about some of the movies and others I will probably pass on because I am just not interested in watching them. I will have to bring this up with my boss, though. Hopefully she likes the idea of taking the boys.

I hope this helps make your summer a little more manageable, especially if you have children. Take them to the movies and they will be very happy!

http://www.regmovies.com/movies/summer-movie-express